16 Feb Now, THAT’S Amore’!
You’ve heard it before. Self-love is the first love you have to have in order to love the ones you want to love. What?
Yea, I know…. confusing. But is it?
Are you a pleaser? Do you say “yes” to everyone and everything because you are wanting to be liked, included, l.o.v.e.d.? Do you really think things will fall apart if you take a back seat for once?
Are you frazzled, irritated, frowning, busy – all the time? Are you overwhelmed, short fused and grumpy? If you are saying “Yes! Gosh darn it!” then keep reading darling.
Stop doing that. It is OK to take care of yourself FIRST. It’s called having healthy self-boundaries and priorities.
In fact, it is essential to a happy heart, mind, spirit, soul and any connections you form on this earth. Seriously think about it, if in fact, you are that person who can’t seem to say no. I don’t know about you, but when I am spread too thin and not taking time for me, well, let’s just say — “momma NOT happy!”
How is your breathing? Go ahead and stop right here and take a deep breath from the belly and let ALL of it out slowly – ahhhhhhhhh!
Relax your WHOLE BODY when you do this. Do it three times. Did your shoulders drop a couple of inches from just plain old relaxing for a minute?
Everybody knows, if you do not take care of yourself first, you won’t be much help to anyone else. You’ll burst like a balloon at some point, and that’s not fun for anyone. (It’s why they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first on planes…sorry for that visual!)
Whether it’s cleaning and clearing up your heart space, your head space, your time schedule — get yourself at the top of the list.
Who is in your TOP 3? Do you know the sequence of a happy life? I’ll share with you what I’ve found to work.
On this “L.O.V.E.” day, which I think is nuts that it’s only one day that we really try to make an effort to express our love for people in our life, here is the sequence of priorities that keep me at the top three, full of joy, energy and peace: God, YOU, your spouse (if you’ve got one), if not, then would come family. Quite frankly I could stop there. The rest always falls into place.
However, after you’ve prioritized 1, 2 and then 3, is when you move onto whatever else is in your life… 4: kids (yep, I’ve raised two and I can tell you if you want you and your spouse happy – this has to happen), extended family, friends, your job, house, lawn, whatever else there is after that.
If you don’t have let’s say the 1, 2, 3 down, how do you expect to have the 4th?
Why do we work harder at our jobs then our relationship with ourselves or our spouse? How did that happen and why do we keep doing that?
It’s a lie and complete myth to say that putting yourself above others is selfish. I am not talking about rude, selfish behavior. I am talking about taking the time for you. What brings you joy? What brings a smile to your lips? Do you like you? If you don’t know these things, it’s time to find out don’t you think? It might be time to take care of yourself first so you can be more of the loving, relaxed, open, SMILING, joyful person you are. Because you are all that!
On this love day, let me be one of the people that let’s you know: YOU ARE IMPORTANT. YOU MATTER. YOU FIRST!
Have you figured out where you stand yet in your life? Try to rearrange and see what happens. Let the pressure out of this cooker and take care of you!
The Mind, the Body, and the Spirit are indeed deeply, intrinsically entwined. When you find it, you’ll experience life at full velocity, vibrancy, magnificence!
Walkin’ The Talk,